It WILL get better.

There are days when we don’t want to get out of bed.

There are days when putting one foot infront of the other seems like the biggest effort in the world.

There are days when we feel so sad that we wonder if we will ever feel happy again.

But we do. We get out of bed. We put one foot infront of the other and we plaster a smile on our faces.

There will come a day, even though it might feel like an eternity away that we will wake up and it won’t feel so hard to get out bed. That carrying on isn’t so hard and gradually, happiness will come back.

It might not be today. It might not be tomorrow……but it will happen. Why? Well, because it has to, right? It has to get better. It has to get easier because we have no choice. We have people who depend on us. Who care. Who love us and need us.

We do it for them. For the people in our lives who are always there. Who pick us up when we fall. Who see the beauty in us, even when we can’t see it in ourselves.

“Mummy, you look beautiful today”. ❀

There is always someone. Whether it be our children, our friends, our family…..there is always a reason to get out of bed and show up……even when it feels like the hardest thing in the world. ❀

We will get there.

Much Love xxx

In our own way β€

We can drive ourselves crazy; overthinking, over -analysing worrying about what may or may not happen.

I know I do.

I know I always worry that i’m not good enough, kind enough, pretty enough, thin enough. The slightest of things can spiral us into the depths of self- loathing and self-doubt.

But please don’t. We can’t change someone to deal with things in a different way. Just like we can’t change the way we ourselves deal with it.

What I’m realising more and more is that you can’t control what’s going to happen. You can drive yourself around the bend and I know for me, jumping to worst case scenario is always a self-preservation thing….like, if I expect the worst to happen then I can’t be disappointed right? I know it’s not a healthy way to be, but our minds are the way they are. Good or bad.

You can shut down, need the space. You can feel empty and confused. You can feel angry. You can feel sad. You might like to be solitary in such times or you might like to surround yourself with people. You might like to talk. You might like to be silent.

Regardless of how you deal with things, worrying only makes it worse. Nothing will change the outcome. All you can do is reassure, support and be honest. You don’t have to be the same as someone else.

Try to understand that your way of dealing with stuff isn’t wrong. We all do what we have to do to get us through such times.

Although easier said than done, try not to worry. Try to be happy. Things will turn out they way they turn out. For better, or for worse.

Much love xxx


We all want and need different things out of a relationship. I guess there isn’t really a right or wrong, it’s down to that particular person.

For me, the one thing I need above all else is time. Time with that person. Laughing, making memories and being a priority to someone. I think it’s only natural to want someone to think about you πŸ’β€β™€οΈ.

It’s so nice to have. It’s so nice to feel important and to have the feeling that someone wants to make you smile.

It doesn’t have to be anything special or expensive. It doesn’t have to be all day or night. It can be jumping in the car and seeing where you end up. It could be sharing a bottle of wine whilst catching up with “Married at First Sight Australia” ( Other shows are available 🀣) or it could even be nipping to the supermarket together.

In and around all of these seemingly easy tasks there are moments. Moments in time that you keep a hold of. A smile. A joke. A look. Something that etches in your brain and creates a memory.

That’s what I need. That’s what I now have and it sometimes feels so strange, but in the best way.

Now don’t get me wrong, “stuff” can be nice. Getting things or gifts can be lovely and has it’s place but for the most part, it’s unimportant.

“Things” can be replaced. “Things” can end up having more priority to someone than who they have in their life. Memories are what is important. Memories are what help us thrive. Memories, both good and bad can make us appreciate what we have.

We all get bogged down with day to day life, forgetting to make ourselves a priority let alone someone else. But it can be the best thing and it’s worth making time for.

Memories are irreplaceable. πŸ₯°

Much love xxx

Take time ❀

And so begins two whole weeks of annual leave. To say i’m excited is an understatement. It’s unheard of that I take so much time off at one go, usually just the odd long weekend here and there when taking part in concerts/gigs etc. It then doesn’t feel like time off because that time is replaced with another task.

At first, I was disheartened that I couldn’t be off when the schools were off, but rather than get into my usual negative mindset, I chose to look at it differently.

This is time for me.

Time to spend with the people I love the most. Time to spend catching up on the tasks within the house that I usually feel too exhausted to do. Time without having to worry about getting home from work at 10.30pm and being back in the following day for 7.30am.

Time to prioritise myself.

Time to cook, time to clean. The simple things that are usually so rushed.

A whole fortnight without Mum guilt and worrying about childcare. I can be there every day to do the school run if I need to be. πŸ₯°

Of course, I have some plans. Plans for some loooooong overdue catch-ups with friends who I care about deeply and can’t wait to see.

Plans with my person, spending quality time together during the days. Walks, picnics, introducing him to The Green Mile ( I know, I can’t believe he hasn’t seen it either). ❀

I have however, not planned too many things. I don’t want to feel stressed,or overwhelmed. I want every day to bring some kind of joy and sometimes the last minute impromptu things are the best πŸ₯°

We spend our lives putting everything infront of ourselves whether it’s work or family. Our day to day routine ( if we have one) takes priority.

It’s really ok. Go on the date you have been putting off. Go for a walk, go to the gym, or sit and watch telly for 5 hours if that’s what makes you happy. Whatever. It doesn’t matter what it is. What matters is that you spend time with yourself as well as other people. Identify your own needs and try to do something about them.

Don’t feel pressure, don’t feel stressed. Even if it’s half an hour, find something just for you and remember who you are.

Just take time and be happy ❀

Much love xxx

Laugh again. Live again.

I saw this post and it hit me hard….

I know that i’m my own worst enemy. Overthinking everything is exhausting but it just seems to be the way i’m wired.

How we react to events or situations says a lot about who we are….or how we are. Past experiences can have a lingering effect, even if we don’t realise it at the time and although we shouldn’t dwell on the past and embrace the present it isn’t always so easy.

At the moment, i’m finding that I worry alot. Not because bad things are happening, but more because good things are. It’s the strangest thing. For the first time I feel good enough, I feel wanted and cared for. But it’s almost like i’m just waiting on something going wrong even though I have no reason to feel that way. So when something changes, I automatically assume that the moment has come. The moment i’m no longer enough. The moment when my over thinking and my love of meaningful conversations gets too much.

I’m trying to stop. I’m tying to let go of past thoughts and anxieties, enjoy the present and living in the moment. I’m trying to think more positively without always assuming that i’ll do or say something to balls it up.

I’m trying, i’m adapting, i’m healing. We all need reassurance. The saying goes that “Actions speak louder than words” and I believe that’s partly true but words have their place.

Don’t assume you know what someone is thinking or saying….because it’s probably the opposite. Things that I read waaaaay too much into and worry about are never really even issues at all.

Say how you feel, be open, honest. Enjoy happiness. It shouldn’t be something we worry about. Nobody knows what’s around the corner we all just have to carry on being kind, communicating and prioritising each other in our lives.

Breathe again

Rest again

Laugh again

Live again.

Much love xxx

Just stop.

It’s ironic, that after being on nightshift and currently being awake for 26 hours that I have managed to do more housework today than I have the past week.

I don’t know why.

It happens sometimes that my body seems to get a surge of energy and starts running on adrenaline. Like my body knows that I can’t stop to sit down too long or i’ll conk out.

Then it got me thinking that I spend so much time hating my body that I don’t give it enough credit. For instance, on a daily basis……

I hate it that it doesn’t work properly in so many ways. Especially this past wee while, even the smallest of things like having a period has to become a big issue for my body and something that has to be pushed to the extreme.

I hate it on the days when I struggle to tie my hair up, put on make-up, cook or clean because the physical pain and aching is too much.

I hate it on the days when my hair is out of control, the dark circles under my eyes are rife and when clothes that fit me a few days previously feel tight.

I hate it on the days when it allows my brain to overthink, over analyse and feel anxious.

But on days like today, i’m so proud of it. I’m proud that although far from perfect my body allows me to work, run a home and be a Mum.

It allows me to wake up everyday with a purpose.

My body has helped me come through even the most awful experiences throughout my life and for that i’m so thankful.

So we need to stop. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves. Stop feeling guilty that we are having a bad day. Stop feeling bad that we may have gained the quarantine 15 and our clothes are tighter.

We need to stop. Maybe just to rest. Maybe just to think. Maybe just to start appreciating everything we can do. Maybe just to LISTEN TO OUR BODIES.

Be kind to yourself. On the days when you struggle know for certain that so many others will be struggling too.

But we get up, we get on and we do what needs to be done. We find the energy we need sometimes without even being aware and for that, we are amazing. πŸ₯°

Much love xxx

I hope you read this one day β€

So here I am. Instead of getting your snacks ready for tomorrow or ironing your uniform, i’m having a moment.

Tomorrow is a big day for you and it’s a big day for me too.

You are off to School. You’re 5 and a half (the half is hugely important) and your academic journey is about to begin properly.

You’re nervous.

I’m nervous.

You’re excited.

I’m excited for you.

I remember my first day of school (unbelievable I know as you constantly remind me that i’m old 🀣) but I do. I remember the butterflies in my tummy, the excitement of the unknown. Making friends, learning new things, getting to sit at a school desk. Nowadays they seem like trivial moments but you will be on cloud 9 tomorrow. I promise.

You are so outgoing, a quality I am so envious of, but I was the same at your age. Being able to see the good and magic in everyone and everything. You are so good at that. You melt my heart.

I don’t know how i’ll be tomorrow. As a parent I always accidentaly wish your life away. From the moment you were born I imagined you walking. From the moment you walked I imagined you talking. From the moment you talked (and haven’t stopped talking since πŸ˜‚) I imagined you going to school. How you would find it, if you would like it.

But now it’s here. The moment we put on your uniform and your Dad and I wave you in, our hearts gushing with pride. I promise i’ll try not to cry infront of you and embarrass you.

Don’t get me wrong, there are days when you absolutely do my head in and I can’t wait until I have time to myself πŸ˜‚ days when we bicker and fight, days when i’m exhausted and you don’t stop talking, days when you’re grumpy with me for no reasonπŸ™ˆ

But you’re my best friend. You’re the thing i’m most proud of in the whole world and deep down, i’ll be lost when you’re at school all day.

There will come a time in the future when i’ll let you see this. Maybe this is your first day of Uni, if that’s the path you chose. Maybe it’s your wedding day, or your first day of work. I’ll read it to you when the moment is right.

I just want you to know how much I love you. How proud I am of you and how excited I am for you to be on this journey. You will have ups and downs. You will make best friends and have massive fall-outs. You will have days that are brilliant and days that are rubbish. And on all of the days good or bad, I’ll be there to listen. To help. To support you and if needs be, challenge another parent if their kid is being a butt face πŸ˜‚

I want you to enjoy every single second. The past 6 months have been really trying for everyone and you have handled it all so well, I know you’ll be just fine.

Go tomorrow, flourish, absorb and continue being the positive kind, sassy soul that you are.

Be kind.

Be happy.

Do your best and that’s all I can ask as your Mum.

This is a new chapter in both of our lives. ❀ I have to let you go a little bit. I don’t know if i’m ready for it but you are. You are sooo ready. And tomorrow, just enjoy it. Enjoy being surrounded by children again. Enjoy playtimes and reading time and whatever else they do these days.

It’s an adventure, and I can’t wait to hear all about it. πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

Now, i best go and chop the carrots into sticks as that’s all you’ve been going on about for the past few days πŸ™„πŸ€£

Much love xxx


We all do it. We look at other peoples lives and sometimes without even realising, we judge. I do it. You do it. It’s part of human nature.

I often wish I was a fly on the wall, to see the unseen and to the hear all of the opinions and thoughts people have. Mostly because it fascinates me.

It’s easy to judge peoples lives, relationships, families and to assume that we know everything. It just isn’t really worth it though.

A persons business is their own ( unless like me you put everything in a blog ) πŸ˜‚

Especially nowadays when we put every aspect of our lives on social media from where we are, who we are with to what we had for tea. Maybe we all seek some sort of validation? I don’t know. But there is nothing wrong with that. It’s the way civilisation has developed and there is no point in trying to go against it. Just embrace it.

With new relationships especially, people can be quick to judge. ” oh I never pictured them together”. “Oh they seem to be moving quickly” ” I wouldn’t have done that” etc etc it’s all just wasted energy.

What matters the most about someones life, is that they are happy. There are no rules, no time frames, what works for one won’t always work for another. All we can do is be honest.

My current relationship has developed quickly. I’m not sorry about that. When “normally”, dating someone means maybe seeing them a few times a month, there has actually only been a few days that we haven’t seen each other because we make the time and effort. There are no secrets, no skeletons in the closet to take us by surprise. We are honest about past failings and where we went wrong.

It’s refreshing. Now I must admit that looking in on a relationship like mine a year or two ago, I would have been the first to think “oh that’s moving quite fast” but not now. Now when I see someones relationship go from strength to strength, i’m just glad that they are happy. I’m glad that they have found their person. No judgement.

None of us know how long we have with someone. So why not just embrace it. Happiness should be treasured, not criticised. We all do what we think is best for us, our children and anyone we care about.

I’m thankful that those around me see the happiness in me, because it’s been a long time coming.

Don’t judge. Don’t hate. Don’t be bitter.

Find your happiness and grab onto it for dear life.

Be kind. It’s simple ❀

Curves and kindness

Never in a million years would I have gone out wearing a crop top. For someone of my build, with my tummy and of my age it’s just not the done thing……right??


I’m not really sure what came over me today but I found myself reaching for the cropped top that has hung in my wardrobe for over a year. As I put it on I stood and looked……and didn’t hate what I saw.

Now don’t get me wrong, today was probably just a one-off and tomorrow i’ll go back to the worrysome mess of every day, throwing my clothes about in disgust, refusing to look at myself in a full length mirror, but today wasn’t one like that. It was a nice feeling. πŸ₯°

As i’d said in previous blogs, i’ve spent over half of my life hating the way I look, noticing all the negative things instead of the postive things and it’s exhausting

I don’t know if today was a fluke, whether this is the beginning of not giving a crap or whether it’s because i’m with someone who makes me feel amazing…..or maybe a combination of both.

I suppose i’m fed up seeing other people having the guts to wear stuff and having complete envy and admiration towards them. It’s my turn. It’s my turn to feel wanted, confident and happy and i’m embracing every moment.

If my stretch marks, bingo wings, crazy hair, and bare midrift offend anyone else, then that’s their problem. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

I hope every day is like today.

I hope the way I feel today lasts for the rest of my life.

So here is to lockdown 2020. Making the most of every crappy situation, eating, drinking, carbing out, finding my person and daring to bare my stomach. Life is too damned short. πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

If you take anything away after reading this, I want it to be….to go for it. Eat what you want, wear what ever the hell you like and for Pete’s sake (whoever Pete is)…..just love it.

We never know if we have a tomorrow so I know for sure I want to have today with my tummy out, my hair wild and my VPL well and truly on show.

Much love xxx

Feeling free ❀

As an over thinker and worrier, I’ve always struggled to completely let myself go. Physically and emotionally. Worrying too much about what people think of me and I know i’m not alone in that.

In a strange way, lockdown has brought with it a security blanket. Not going out means not having to worry as much about what i’m wearing, whether my eyebrows are “on fleek” or if my arms are out. (See previous blogs about bingo wings) πŸ˜‚

It’s also brought with it a new relationship. Something I never saw happening. Loads of friends said “It will happen when you least expect it” and to be quite honest, I thought they were talking crap πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ˜‚

But it HAS happened. There he was, under my nose the whole time. Someone who already, in such a short space of time, has allowed me to be completely myself. For the first time in my life I don’t have to worry. He has seen me at my worst and still didn’t judge. When my self-consciousness and sadness has been at the forefront-he didn’t run.

Within a couple of days, I felt more relaxed, more comfortable. Without even knowing it he has given me the ability to be unapologetically me. Whether i’m dolled up to the nines, or whether I have birds nest hair and no face on- he looks at me the same way.

It has been an intense rollercoaster. It’s been scary and wonderful all at the same time.

I get it now.

I get the way i’m supposed to feel about myself, and about someone else. I understand it finally. The butterflies, the lust, the kindness, the freedom. No expectation to be something i’m not. No pretending to be something i’m not. God it’s surreal. I keep expecting to waken up….or for him to come to his senses πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ˜‚ but I feel secure.

Happiness, contentment, understanding and feeling wanted are flippin’ brilliant feelings to have. 😁

Freedom. To have my bingo wings flailing about without worrying. Freedom. To tie my hair back if it get’s too crazy which would have been unheard of before as it hides my face . Such small things in the grand scheme of everything going on, but hugely important. Freedom to sit without covering my waist. Freedom to say what I want and how I feel.

I think most important, I now have the ability to let someone in, and I have. ❀

I have no idea what the future will bring, but I know that i’m excited about it….complete freedom. Sounds pretty good to me 😁

Much Love x