We all do it. We look at other peoples lives and sometimes without even realising, we judge. I do it. You do it. It’s part of human nature.
I often wish I was a fly on the wall, to see the unseen and to the hear all of the opinions and thoughts people have. Mostly because it fascinates me.
It’s easy to judge peoples lives, relationships, families and to assume that we know everything. It just isn’t really worth it though.
A persons business is their own ( unless like me you put everything in a blog ) 😂
Especially nowadays when we put every aspect of our lives on social media from where we are, who we are with to what we had for tea. Maybe we all seek some sort of validation? I don’t know. But there is nothing wrong with that. It’s the way civilisation has developed and there is no point in trying to go against it. Just embrace it.
With new relationships especially, people can be quick to judge. ” oh I never pictured them together”. “Oh they seem to be moving quickly” ” I wouldn’t have done that” etc etc it’s all just wasted energy.
What matters the most about someones life, is that they are happy. There are no rules, no time frames, what works for one won’t always work for another. All we can do is be honest.
My current relationship has developed quickly. I’m not sorry about that. When “normally”, dating someone means maybe seeing them a few times a month, there has actually only been a few days that we haven’t seen each other because we make the time and effort. There are no secrets, no skeletons in the closet to take us by surprise. We are honest about past failings and where we went wrong.
It’s refreshing. Now I must admit that looking in on a relationship like mine a year or two ago, I would have been the first to think “oh that’s moving quite fast” but not now. Now when I see someones relationship go from strength to strength, i’m just glad that they are happy. I’m glad that they have found their person. No judgement.
None of us know how long we have with someone. So why not just embrace it. Happiness should be treasured, not criticised. We all do what we think is best for us, our children and anyone we care about.
I’m thankful that those around me see the happiness in me, because it’s been a long time coming.
Don’t judge. Don’t hate. Don’t be bitter.
Find your happiness and grab onto it for dear life.
Be kind. It’s simple ❤