Month: Jul 2020

Judge.

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We all do it. We look at other peoples lives and sometimes without even realising, we judge. I do it. You do it. It’s part of human nature.

I often wish I was a fly on the wall, to see the unseen and to the hear all of the opinions and thoughts people have. Mostly because it fascinates me.

It’s easy to judge peoples lives, relationships, families and to assume that we know everything. It just isn’t really worth it though.

A persons business is their own ( unless like me you put everything in a blog ) 😂

Especially nowadays when we put every aspect of our lives on social media from where we are, who we are with to what we had for tea. Maybe we all seek some sort of validation? I don’t know. But there is nothing wrong with that. It’s the way civilisation has developed and there is no point in trying to go against it. Just embrace it.

With new relationships especially, people can be quick to judge. ” oh I never pictured them together”. “Oh they seem to be moving quickly” ” I wouldn’t have done that” etc etc it’s all just wasted energy.

What matters the most about someones life, is that they are happy. There are no rules, no time frames, what works for one won’t always work for another. All we can do is be honest.

My current relationship has developed quickly. I’m not sorry about that. When “normally”, dating someone means maybe seeing them a few times a month, there has actually only been a few days that we haven’t seen each other because we make the time and effort. There are no secrets, no skeletons in the closet to take us by surprise. We are honest about past failings and where we went wrong.

It’s refreshing. Now I must admit that looking in on a relationship like mine a year or two ago, I would have been the first to think “oh that’s moving quite fast” but not now. Now when I see someones relationship go from strength to strength, i’m just glad that they are happy. I’m glad that they have found their person. No judgement.

None of us know how long we have with someone. So why not just embrace it. Happiness should be treasured, not criticised. We all do what we think is best for us, our children and anyone we care about.

I’m thankful that those around me see the happiness in me, because it’s been a long time coming.

Don’t judge. Don’t hate. Don’t be bitter.

Find your happiness and grab onto it for dear life.

Be kind. It’s simple ❤

Curves and kindness

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Never in a million years would I have gone out wearing a crop top. For someone of my build, with my tummy and of my age it’s just not the done thing……right??

Wrong.

I’m not really sure what came over me today but I found myself reaching for the cropped top that has hung in my wardrobe for over a year. As I put it on I stood and looked……and didn’t hate what I saw.

Now don’t get me wrong, today was probably just a one-off and tomorrow i’ll go back to the worrysome mess of every day, throwing my clothes about in disgust, refusing to look at myself in a full length mirror, but today wasn’t one like that. It was a nice feeling. 🥰

As i’d said in previous blogs, i’ve spent over half of my life hating the way I look, noticing all the negative things instead of the postive things and it’s exhausting

I don’t know if today was a fluke, whether this is the beginning of not giving a crap or whether it’s because i’m with someone who makes me feel amazing…..or maybe a combination of both.

I suppose i’m fed up seeing other people having the guts to wear stuff and having complete envy and admiration towards them. It’s my turn. It’s my turn to feel wanted, confident and happy and i’m embracing every moment.

If my stretch marks, bingo wings, crazy hair, and bare midrift offend anyone else, then that’s their problem. 🤷‍♀️

I hope every day is like today.

I hope the way I feel today lasts for the rest of my life.

So here is to lockdown 2020. Making the most of every crappy situation, eating, drinking, carbing out, finding my person and daring to bare my stomach. Life is too damned short. 🥰🥰

If you take anything away after reading this, I want it to be….to go for it. Eat what you want, wear what ever the hell you like and for Pete’s sake (whoever Pete is)…..just love it.

We never know if we have a tomorrow so I know for sure I want to have today with my tummy out, my hair wild and my VPL well and truly on show.

Much love xxx

Feeling free ❤

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As an over thinker and worrier, I’ve always struggled to completely let myself go. Physically and emotionally. Worrying too much about what people think of me and I know i’m not alone in that.

In a strange way, lockdown has brought with it a security blanket. Not going out means not having to worry as much about what i’m wearing, whether my eyebrows are “on fleek” or if my arms are out. (See previous blogs about bingo wings) 😂

It’s also brought with it a new relationship. Something I never saw happening. Loads of friends said “It will happen when you least expect it” and to be quite honest, I thought they were talking crap 🤷‍♀️😂

But it HAS happened. There he was, under my nose the whole time. Someone who already, in such a short space of time, has allowed me to be completely myself. For the first time in my life I don’t have to worry. He has seen me at my worst and still didn’t judge. When my self-consciousness and sadness has been at the forefront-he didn’t run.

Within a couple of days, I felt more relaxed, more comfortable. Without even knowing it he has given me the ability to be unapologetically me. Whether i’m dolled up to the nines, or whether I have birds nest hair and no face on- he looks at me the same way.

It has been an intense rollercoaster. It’s been scary and wonderful all at the same time.

I get it now.

I get the way i’m supposed to feel about myself, and about someone else. I understand it finally. The butterflies, the lust, the kindness, the freedom. No expectation to be something i’m not. No pretending to be something i’m not. God it’s surreal. I keep expecting to waken up….or for him to come to his senses 🤷‍♀️😂 but I feel secure.

Happiness, contentment, understanding and feeling wanted are flippin’ brilliant feelings to have. 😁

Freedom. To have my bingo wings flailing about without worrying. Freedom. To tie my hair back if it get’s too crazy which would have been unheard of before as it hides my face . Such small things in the grand scheme of everything going on, but hugely important. Freedom to sit without covering my waist. Freedom to say what I want and how I feel.

I think most important, I now have the ability to let someone in, and I have. ❤

I have no idea what the future will bring, but I know that i’m excited about it….complete freedom. Sounds pretty good to me 😁

Much Love x