We can drive ourselves crazy; overthinking, over -analysing worrying about what may or may not happen.
I know I do.
I know I always worry that i’m not good enough, kind enough, pretty enough, thin enough. The slightest of things can spiral us into the depths of self- loathing and self-doubt.
But please don’t. We can’t change someone to deal with things in a different way. Just like we can’t change the way we ourselves deal with it.
What I’m realising more and more is that you can’t control what’s going to happen. You can drive yourself around the bend and I know for me, jumping to worst case scenario is always a self-preservation thing….like, if I expect the worst to happen then I can’t be disappointed right? I know it’s not a healthy way to be, but our minds are the way they are. Good or bad.
You can shut down, need the space. You can feel empty and confused. You can feel angry. You can feel sad. You might like to be solitary in such times or you might like to surround yourself with people. You might like to talk. You might like to be silent.
Regardless of how you deal with things, worrying only makes it worse. Nothing will change the outcome. All you can do is reassure, support and be honest. You don’t have to be the same as someone else.
Try to understand that your way of dealing with stuff isn’t wrong. We all do what we have to do to get us through such times.
Although easier said than done, try not to worry. Try to be happy. Things will turn out they way they turn out. For better, or for worse.
Much love xxx